I worked incredibly hard over many years to win a principal oboe job. Ultimately, I failed at that goal. But along the way, the effort itself became a spiritual practice.
In this 9-minute companion video to the article, Chronically dissatisfied with yourself? You may be setting the wrong goals, I I describe how this slew of rejections gave me a new understanding of the nature of goals and how they can set us up for satisfaction and happiness or for frustration and misery.