During the first free HSP Support Teleseminar last Tuesday, questions came up about conflict. How do you talk to someone who is upset? How do you bring up at touchy topic with a family member, friend, or colleague? When we met 17 years ago, my partner Duke and I had only two conflict-handling tactics as a couple: “blurt it out” or “bury it.” This made for a very rough ride! We’ve had to work hard to develop better skills.
In this 15-minute video we share how we bring up tough subjects; how we each know when we are getting triggered, and what to do when that happens; and the importance of “meta-talks”—talks about your talks. To better recognize your own signs of being triggered, I suggest you take a look at this trauma graphic.
Thank you Duke for doing this with me. And thanks to all of you for letting me share with you and, I hope, support you. It is deeply meaningful to me.
And for readers in the US, Happy Thanksgiving!