This comes with my heartfelt gratitude to all of you who read The Listening Post, and it comes with my best wishes for a wonderful, healthy 2019. Happy New Year!
I’m not a fan of New Year’s resolutions. I prefer New Year’s observations—a leisurely chance to look back at the previous 12 months to celebrate everything that has happened. Even if I’ve had a tough year, the fact that I am still here is cause for celebration.
My partner and I like to do this yearly review on New Year’s Day over a cup of tea. If you haven’t done this before—with a partner or friend, or on your own—I encourage you to try it. Our culture is heavily forward-looking: we rarely pause before moving on. But this is our loss, because acknowledging and celebrating all we’ve done and experienced can profoundly influence how we move on.
Since I’m tossing the idea of resolutions out the window, I’d like to offer the concept of rhythm as a replacement. Observing the rhythm of your life, and noticing how well that rhythm is or isn’t working for you, is a key form of self-responsibility. This sustained self-observation isn’t glamorous: it requires patience and perseverance through days, weeks, and months. But it is the cornerstone of loving self-care. [Read more…]